3kidsA few years ago my career went through a rough patch and I was laid off from my job as a web designer. My prospects for a new job were slim so I made the decision to start my own business but it was slow going and I ended up selling my house to make ends meet. It was a very low point for me and at the time I thought it was the worst thing that could ever happen. After selling our house we made the decision to move to a new city where we bought a tiny affordable fixer-upper, and while my wife worked on building our home I got busy building my business.

My first priority was an office; but rather than shelling out a bunch of money to rent one I opted for sharing space with an existing business. This worked out great because I was fortunate enough to find a large web design company that had an empty office and also allowed me access to some very savvy business people that were willing to take me under their wing and provide advice when I needed it. Their generosity was instrumental in helping my business become successful.

After a few months my wife and I still missed our old friends but we were content in our new home and were starting to become part of the community. We joined a small church and my wife had volunteered at our sons pre-school. One day my wife had a chance encounter with another mother at a park and she told her the story of how she adopted her two children through the foster adopt program. We’d been discussing having more children and this chance encounter put us on a path we could never have anticipated.

Several months later my business had taken off and while we liked our new town we really missed our old friends and made the decision to move back. We ended up purchasing a larger, nicer house in our old neighbor only two blocks from our best friends. Within a short while we enrolled in classes to become foster parents. Our goal was to bring home a baby that was open for adoption and one day we got the call, they had a 6 month old baby girl for us! Then the foster care worker told us that it was actually a package deal and if we wanted the little girl we’d have to also take her 2 year old brother. We told her we’d think about it and give her a call later that day. Well we thought about it for all of 15 minutes and called her back and said yes. The end result is that our family of three quickly became a family of five.

I look back at this time in my life and have come to realize that my life wasn’t always what I wanted it to be but it was what it needed to be. When you’re at the end of your rope the only option that makes sense is to start climbing, and sometimes the only way to build a better life is to lose the one you have.